You will have significant experiences. I hope that you will write them down and keep record of them, that you will read them from time to time and refresh your memory of those meaningful and significant things. Some may be funny. some may be significant only to you. some of them may be sacred and quietly beautiful. Some may build one upon another until they represent a lifetime of special experience. - President Hinckley



Sunday, September 28, 2008

You look tired....

Have you ever been out and about and run into someone you know and you think you look pretty good (maybe because you went shopping that day- hypothetically of course), and the first thing out of their mouth is "You look so tired, I've never seen you look so tired." How do you respond to that? "well, thank you...you look tired yourself." - not the best response.

This very thing happened to me this week. I had been shopping earlier in the day and was at a school function with Hunter that evening. I had worked out, trimmed a few grassy bushes in my yard, made dinner, and went to the school. Oh and I had shed a few tears during the day as well...nothing alarming just the regular tear shedding that I do. But I had taken a shower and did my makeup and hair and put on some of my new clothes so I thought I looked okay, but maybe not. So, yes, maybe I was a wee bit tired, but do you really say that to someone?

Anyway, I didn't take offense to that, it just proved to me that you can't really hide how you feel sometimes. And today I had all four kids at church by myself - which was okay...Dallin slept through Sacrament meeting (what a blessing) and I wrestled the other three. What a blessing it is to have an abundant supply of fruit snacks. :) Anyway, I teach Sunbeams...and I have a "helper" that has been called to be there, but she was sick...so wouldn't you know it, I nurse Dallin during Sunday school (1st hour of primary - sharing/singing time) and then trudge on to class. Today instead of my usually 6 sunbeams I had 8! And I walked into class and Dallin began to just scream. I knew it would be fun....I held him the rest of the hour and he finally crashed. For those of you who have taught sunbeams before you know that they all want to sit on your lap show you what they brought to church, have you fix something that broke, tie their shoe, etc. and getting drinks is a task because none of them can reach the drinking fountain....and poor little class I couldn't help because I was holding my 7 week old baby trying to have a normal non-baby screaming class. It was an adventure.

In light of all of this information I have decided that today I hate Elk season becuase church is so hard without the help of my other half. However, I have come to the realization that because I have a testimony I go even when he's gone and I want my kids to go. I was tempted to just stay home - a few of the kids had runny noses...but I didn't want to give in to that. It has made me realize that I am grateful for an active husband who goes to church every Sunday (except when he's out of town) because it would be such a challenge to do it by myself every week- even though I would for the sake of my children.

So, in conclusion if you see me around you can say "You look tired, I've never seen you look so tired." I won't care because single parenting will do that to you. And it's a sacrifice I am willing to make even if it makes me look so tired.

HAPPY SUNDAY TO ALL! Naptime here we come....

8 comments:

Robby and Mary said...

I also hate it when people say I look tired. It never fails; if I happen to think I look "natural" and think my face looks good enough to go without makeup for a day (it doesn't happen very often, summertime helps)someone ALWAYS says I look tired. You know what - I am tired most of the time. My body is working at about 175% all the time because of my lupus and frankly, I am tired a lot. But besides, that, I agree that it doesn't help to hear it. i also agree that it is much better to look a little tired for one day without a husband, than to have to have the courage to go every week alone. Not to say anything bad --- but what the heck do they have you as Sunbeam teacher for right now? I release my teachers if it is more than their first child being born. I'm so sorry - you must be receiving many blessings for it. I don't think it's a bad thing to mention to your president that you might need released. I tell my teachers in our trainings that if they come into a life situation where they feel that doing their calling is overwhelming to let me know because I want them to enjoy their calling and I want the children to enjoy their teachers. And yes, some have let me know and I respect it. It seems you've had a run of bad luck with callings - I feel bad for it. Good thing you have a strong testimony and a good support system. We'll have to have you guys over sometime...LOL

Heather said...

Oh Marie! I so know what you are going through. Dustin works on Sundays and when we have early church he can't make it. I went by myself with all 5 kids (the twins were almost 1) to church, people just look at me, they want to help and when they try to take one of the babies but the baby screams because they don't know that person. It's awful I tell ya - I am not looking forward to the new year it brings a time change and probably for the worst for me!
hope things are better for you now that you are home!

Amy said...

I skipped church today because Katie was "sorta" sick and I was tired and didn't have the conviction or courage to go alone without Mike. You totally inspired me, kicked my butt (which I needed) and reminded me what's important. Thank you so much for this post. And I promise you look great. At least nobody tells you "man you husband hasn't aged at all since high school. Not like us right?" ha ha ha. Yeah, those people are so funny.

Heidelweiss said...

You're a good girl. I don't go when my kids are sick and I don't go to sacrament meeting when Steve is out of town. I'm rotten. I need to take a page out of your book.

The Gibbens said...

I should have checked on you! I didn't even think about your "helper" not being there- next time I hope I'll be more thoughtful- Next sunday I encourage you to stay in your pajamas and not do your hair or makeup... just turn on the tv and enjoy! You are seriously a great example, I dont' think you saw where we were sitting but I had your back when you took Tyler out- Hunter and Gwennie both got the "turn around and be quiet" signal from aunt Trish and they did it! Hunting is over- hallelujah!

Jake and Lynn said...

Ugggh...I hate when people say that to me too. I wish I could be there to hang out with you. I think you look great!

The {Prince} Family said...

Uh, we ARE tired. Any mom with over 2 or 3 kids is ALWAYS tired. Now that we have 4 kids, there are days where I have no idea how I will survive all day long by myself. When Todd walks in the door, it is so appreciated.

Good days & bad days, I wouldn't trade it for the world!

Meg said...

Oh dear, Marie, what do you say to that? Yeah, I am tired, but hey, you caught me on a good day! Frustrating. I think you're doing an amazing job! And you braved sacrament meeting with 4 kids and Sunbeams all alone! I am in awe. I wish we could have been there to help with the kids. Well, when Travis is done with hunting season, you deserve a much needed break!